Oh, the dreaded “But.” A sentence can sound so wonderful and then that three-letter word rears its ugly head, and suddenly wonderful goes right out the window! Need help figuring out what it all means and how to respond the right way? We got you covered!
I want to date you BUT I don’t want a relationship
Translation? He doesn’t want to date you exclusively! He might really like you, but he clearly wants to keep his dating options open, and if that’s not something that you’re cool with then you need to make that known. There’s nothing worse than being with someone who doesn’t want to be with you all the way!
I’d love to meet your parents BUT that seems really serious
If you’ve been seeing each other for a while and it feels like the right time to start introducing family, why wait? It feels really serious to meet parents because it usually is, but if you’re not on that serious page together then a chat is most certainly in order to find out where you stand. Ask your SO what the issue is with taking things to a new level and base decisions on that truthful response.
We could move in together BUT why rush things?
Bottom line: your partner doesn’t want to move in. Maybe it’s too soon, or maybe you’ve been dating for ages but they still don’t want to make a commitment – whatever the reasoning, you need to get to the bottom of it by asking some tough questions. If moving in together doesn’t seem rushed to you, but it does to your SO that can be a total deal breaker!
We’ll get married BUT I’m not ready yet
The ultimate phrase in conversations regarding commitment! Getting engaged and then married is a pretty huge deal for most people, so it should be okay that your partner wants to be sure before making a big move. But, if they’re still “not ready” and you’ve been dating for a million years – it’s worth more exploration. Your feelings on this are just as important (don’t forget that).