Dealing with loss
“Dogs’ lives are too short. Their only fault, really.”
Agnes Sligh Turnbull
My friends, this is a hard one to write. I have debated whether to share it with you but I lost a beloved family member this week. I am beyond bereft. My oldest boy Ursus, was 12 years old and I had rescued him when he was just 6 weeks old. He was a beautiful black lab mix and the joy and soul of my life.
It is even hard to write these words. Sadly it is even difficult to tell people because so many people seem to value human animals over non-human animals and I don’t perceive a difference. In fact, with most human relationships there are often sore spots, hurts, jealousies, competitiveness and so many of the flaws human beings are plagued with. Dogs have no flaws in my opinion. They are pure love. They are happy with everything they get and with every moment of life they are given. I am hard pressed to say that about any human animal I know, have ever known or even heard of. The love of a dog is pure and untainted by the human garbage we tend to fill our relationships with. Now of course, that makes losing a human difficult too as we are often riddled with guilt over trivial nonsense we pepper our relationships with. Have you ever discussed this with your friends, lovers, or even on phone chat lines seeking friends and singles? I find it an important subject and one that can bond us in our Quest to find respite and solace
Which brings me to my point today; Coping with loss. It’s a tough one and those made of sterner stuff than me have pondered it through the ages. I find myself turning to many things in my time of grief and yes some of it has been ‘lubricol’ ( you know the social/emotional lubricant?) but to my credit I have gone easy. I felt I owed it to him to feel this pain and not anesthetize myself too much. But I have turned to nature. I’ve been working like a fiend in the field and flower (a lot of alliteration, I know!) helps me feel better. But this is a good one I want to share; it’s called EFT Emotional freedom therapy.
Over the years I have used it to help me survive some pretty horrific ordeals and I think you will find it useful. It’s a free download. Here’s hoping you find happiness and joy in others always and when you lose them, I hope you make it through. There’s much to be learned both in suffering and the sharing of it.