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Surviving Christmas

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Do you have a hard time at the holidays? Do you feel pressure to buy beyond your means or be someone you aren’t simply to impress your family? We all go through this and though it would be great to just not succumb to these pressures to buy and be the ideal of success your family thinks you should be, that’s easier said than done.

Here are some tips for helping you survive the holidays…and maybe even enjoy them!

Look gorgeous! This is always my best beginning to deal with stressful situations. I make my hair, grooming and clothing as clean and nice as possible. It’s like wearing a mask, except its just a great version of you.

Listen instead of talk. I find in these holiday situations, I prefer asking questions and listening to the other people. It takes a lot of the pressure of you, you will be well thought of and you will have less of that; “why did I say that” when you get home! Read More

Restoring the Balance

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Well you’d have to be hiding in a cave (and if you do, I hope you have a big, cuddly cave bear living with you) to have missed the celebrity sex accusations that have been gumming up the media lately.

#metoo is everywhere and it is about time that this massive wave of fighting back has crested. Too long people in positions of power have abused their celebrity or authority to gratify their sexual needs. No one should have to go to work or school or in cases of caretaker or parents, even home and have to be used as an object to humiliate or use. Read More

Focusing on Friends and Family

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This is the month where we have to be careful not to fall into a funk and feel forlorn.

Yes, that is a lot of alliteration! But it’s true, November can be a sad and dismal month because Halloween is over and we are facing winter and the Holidays. I just read this fantastic blog and I simply couldn’t write it better. This is a good subject to share and discuss when you are in chat rooms talking to local singles. I hope you enjoy this and find it useful. I certainly did! Read More

Some Kind of Kindness

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Has the ‘Milk of Human Kindness’ curdled?


I’ve been thinking about kindness. We all think we are nice people. Good people. But are we? Just because we are not bad or evil, does that automatically make us good? Just as doing an evil or bad thing requires action, doesn’t then being good also require an action? Just simply being is neither good nor bad. It is simply neutral. You don’t hear many people describe themselves as neutral, but most of us are, truthfully. We seem to run our lives in neutral. We shop, with no thought of what or where or who those items we buy came from and at what cost. We simply buy and consume. Even sharks are more selective. Even when a shark makes a mistake and bites a human, they realize that we are not their usual fare and swim away. Now, mind you, the bitten one usually bleeds to death, but that is beside the point. Read More

High PRODUCTion Value

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Are you a product of products?

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about products and what make people buy things and worse; buy INTO the advertising around them. I admit there are some products i use that i cannot do without and i would have no way of replicating them at home. Coconut oil, i use tons of and if it wasn’t made for me then i would have no idea how to make it.

There is another product I couldn’t live without; chat rooms! I admit, I am a user of dating sites and chat rooms. I love talking to people and meeting them and I’ve had some good LTRs too, so that’s not a product I intend to give up, nor should I. It makes me happy!  When you are in chat rooms and seeking local singles, ask others what products they can’t live without?

But what about products that clearly we can? When you think about it, a product is something that has been manufactured from raw materials. Myself I am a big buyer of plain old raw materials. I don’t like processed and packaged things and there is a reason; most of this stuff is blatantly garbage. Good things stripped down to their essentials and then packed with filler and harmful chemicals, then packed into pretty packaging and sold via brainwashing manipulative advertising campaigns to, well…us.

Frankly we should be embarrassed to be so easily manipulated. Milk is a prime example of this. The notion of taking the milk of another species, torturing her, stealing her children, locking her in a tiny cage, all so we can drink her milk is bizarre, unhealthy, in fact it’s evil. Yet, we continue to buy it because billions of advertising dollars, product placement in movies and TV shows and even uneducated in the proper nutrition pediatricians have people sold on this sad and scary idea.

Cereal is another thing that is pure profit for companies and has absolutely no nutritional value whatsoever.  A “food” that has to have vitamins and minerals actually inserted into it to make it have any food value at all. Yet if you cooked up a bowl of steel cut oats, or barley or brown rice etc. this would be actual food and have a food value. Or what about things we just don’t need at all but are advertised into thinking we do? Fidget spinners, lash lengthening potions, lip ‘puffifers’ etc. what do we need them for?

A lot of this is just cooked up in advertising agencies just to create a market for something there really shouldn’t be a market for! All I am saying is; it’s time for us as a species to start thinking for ourselves and not walk placidly into stores and shovel over our hard earned money just to make advertisers and the companies they represent happy.

We are better than that! A key component of a happy life is being an independent thinker, learning and questioning what we do and how we can do it better.

Live free. Think for yourself. Love life!

So..when you gonna learn about Samhain?

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What the Samhain?


Ever wonder where Halloween comes from? Before the silly costumes and collection of tooth rotting treats, there was an ancient and powerful celebration.  Samhain (pronounced sow-en) was celebrated on October 31st and was believed to be the night the dead returned to the earth. Presumably to party down with the still living loved ones they left behind! Read More

Beyond bereft

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Dealing with loss

“Dogs’ lives are too short. Their only fault, really.”

Agnes Sligh Turnbull


My friends, this is a hard one to write. I have debated whether to share it with you but I lost a beloved family member this week. I am beyond bereft. My oldest boy Ursus, was 12 years old and I had rescued him when he was just 6 weeks old. He was a beautiful black lab mix and the joy and soul of my life.

It is even hard to write these words. Sadly it is even difficult to tell people because so many people seem to value human animals over non-human animals and I don’t perceive a difference. Read More

Moody Blue Is That You?

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Are you a ‘moody’, ‘grumpus’, ‘sad-sack’ or ‘gloomy gus’? Do you think I am talking about some new dwarves that could possibly be the stars of the movie of your life? OK, maybe just the extras, but admit it, we all get down, blue, under the weather, down-in-the-dumps or whatever euphemism for mild depression you want to use. What makes us behave this way? It can be frustrating. Read More

Pick a pretty posey

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What is your favourite flower? Did you know that flowers have meanings and messages and it used to be quite common to send flowers to convey a specific message? I think that is very romantic! In fact one could even insult someone or even break up with them using flowers as your medium of choice. When in chat rooms seeking local singles, it’s a very interesting conversation starter. Find out who is compatible with you by their favourite flower or their birth month flower. Just like your astrological sign, your birth month also has a flower. So let’s delve a bit into the interesting world of flowers and see what it reveals about you and your potential loves! Read More