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The “Still Single?” Stigma

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Say that ten times fast, betcha can’t!  lol well tongue twisters aside, being single can seem like a life twister too. For some unfathomable reason, people have a hard time seeing each other single.

Why it’s almost as if, well if one of us has the courage to make up our own  mind about our own life and most especially our own relationship status, then it must mean that the paired up among us are what? Too easily influenced by others and DON”T have the courage to make their own decisions in life? hmm? Could that be the real reason we get hounded at every family gathering, Christmas party etc. asking about whether or not we’ve found someone to leave stinky, balled-up socks under our beds?

Just how much of our relationship status is dependent on peer/parental pressure? Not to mention good ol’ society as a whole.

Traditionally it has been the role of the human being to pair up and stay that way and raise little tax-payers. But this is the age of enlightenment and it’s time to live life that way you want it. Quantum physics teaches us that there are infinite possibilities when we aren’t looking and only one when we look right at it. Meaning if all you are shown is one route, that’ is the route you will take, when, just on the periphery of your vision, there are so many unexplored paths! Choosing your own does indeed take courage but don’t you deserve the right to live your life as you want? Within the confines of the law of course J  (Editor making me say that!)

Being single is a glorious state of being for the self-confident but also for the self-exploring. Certainly you must love yourself and know yourself first before paring up with someone else. The journey to you is as fun and exciting as any journey can be.  I love travelling alone. The choice of where to go, to whom I can speak, what to do, what to eat, all up to me and no one to please but myself. Imagine life that way!  When someone poses that tired old question about being single, just tell them you are getting to know yourself first. You are not just going to settle for the first person who wants you just to please someone else.

 

These are some of my favourite things about living alone (when I lived alone!)

1 King sized bed all for me!

2 The only disgusting, stinky, balled-up socks under the bed are mine. unless they were left there by an overnight guest. In which case I just throw them out!  Which brings me to the next point…

3 Hook-ups….nuff said about that one, it is a way to sometimes get free socks!

4 Mo Money, my money is all for me!

5 Farting….no one needs to know whether or not I actually do it…which I definitely DON’T!

6 Hobbies, OK, so I like to make Adventure Time characters out of plasticene! I don’t need anyone judging me on that!

 

7 Friends! This is a big one. I love my friends and maybe they are weird but I love weird! I hate having to justify my friend’s behavior to my sig-other. I also hate asking if they can come over.

 

8 Ice cream and chips…yes I eat them sometimes, sometimes I just might dip one into the other…just saying….my ice cream, my chips, my money, my place!

 

9 I love yous

Sometimes I don’t want to say it right after you do. I’m not a parrot. I will say it when I feel it or maybe never.  I certainly say it to my dog a lot!

And that brings me to my favourite reason to stay single-

10 MY DOG! Or whatever pets you have. I can have him on the bed, in the car, in the darned shower if he wants to go in there and no one can tell me not to!

 

Well Kiddies, that’s my take on singleness and just living your life the way you want in general. Always listen to your own mind and please yourself first….as long as you are never rude! I hate rude.

 

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where’s the substance?

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Who doesn’t love a good origin story, right? Batman and his parent’s night at the opera ruined by a crazy clown asking weird riddles whilst pointing a gun. The Bionic Woman’s  parachute failing to open, Mr. Magoo, falling into a vat of acid….OK, THAT never happened but it would’ve explained his terrible eyesight! Right?

So last night I’m getting a glass of soda pop for my beloved when it occurred to me, cuz that’s the kind of random jumbly-joo that goes through my head non-stop, that all of the things that used to really have a solid reason for existence are just sort of fluffy meaningless filler these days. Read More

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To Drink or not to drink, that is the question

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Should you quit drinking?

 

We all love drinking to some degree. It seems it is an integral part of our lives in the culture we live in. It is firmly enmeshed in our lives in some way or another. Alcohol to celebrate, the “God I need a drink days” and the summer day cold beer is an absolute must. All of our movies, TV, books, stories we share with friends, stories our parents told us, we all have alcohol stories. But is it necessary in our lives and just how much damage does alcohol do? Is it worth it? Would we be able to have as much fun without it? With it? Let’s have a look at our lives and see; should we give up drinking? Read More

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Sweet, fizzy crush

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When is it love, infatuation or a crush?

‘The difference between like, love and in love, is the same difference between; for now, for a while and forever”

 

Ah the multi-faceted, many headed monster we call love. There are so many ways to feel and so few clues to help us understand that heady, light-headed, heart-pounding feeling we get when we are with that certain someone.  Often we get feelings for people we really don’t know at all. For example; teachers, bosses, celebrities, people who we see in a certain way and often our feelings are our own projections as to who and what they are. Read More

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DST-Just what is it and why does it mess up my life?

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Spring forward and Fall back. That’s how I always remember which is which. That joyful time in the fall when, if at the pub or the club, you get an extra hour before last call…and on the converse side that dammit moment when you realize you get one less hour of fun that night!  Not to mention having to catch up on sleep somehow and being late for everything for a week or so and that weird feeling that it is either too light out or too dark out. Read More

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Movie Magic

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With the 88th Oscars now behind us, I got thinking about why we love movies so much and why they are so great for date night. I am a big fan of the Academy Awards, always have been. It’s a great chance to see movie actors outside of a role, I love hearing what they say in their speeches, I cry with them, I laugh with them, I envy them and I even pity them, because living your life in the public eye is not easy. Of course most of us would gladly trade places with them, but if I had my picture taken every time I did something silly, dumb or embarrassing….well, let’s just say there’d be a lot of pictures.

I mean A LOT, like enough to wallpaper everyone’s house in my city. Read More

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Tips and Tricks for better ads

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Tips and Tricks for better ads

 

 

Today kiddies, we will be learning together some tips and tricks for getting the most out of online and telephone dating systems. After consulting with my super team of experts, I have some very useful handy-dandy notes for you.

What makes someone an expert in telephone and internet dating you ask? Simple. They have a great romantic life. DUH.

What did you think?  A PhD from QuestChat U? Read More

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Grab February by the…er..blahs!

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Now that Valentine’s Day is over, however do we get through the rest of this miserable month? We’ve gone through our self-assessment, house-cleaning, wardrobe inspection and still we have the rest of February to deal with. Now is a good time to find some local activities to get involved with. We had a wonderful snowshoe hike through one of our local popular nature trails and it was just wonderful! Sure the cold air seared our lungs but laughing with others as we figured out how to navigate the terrain with ungainly snowshoes was hilarious and challenging, as well as giving us a much needed cardio workout. Read More

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V-Day-make it special not ‘spensive

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If you’re like me, then you don’t want to do the same old lame-ass Valentine’s Day as everyone else. But, you also don’t want to break the bank. Myself I prefer fun over romantic. In fact to me a great relationship is one in which I feel close to the person and comfortable. Is it me or does a too romantic situation feel almost uncomfortable? Like giggle-worthy? Read More

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Beat the Winter Blahs!

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If you are like most of us, Winter is tough to get through. After the holidays are over we can be a bit down, either from the excitement being over or from the bills being a bit high, or both. We tend to feel less energy, less motivation and we also tend to put on a few pounds. Let’s face it, it would be easy to ride that wave  and get deeper in the funk…OR… we can grab the bull by the horns, or as I like to say the bush by the thorns (I prefer not to involve innocent bulls in my clichés!).
After all we are entitled to delve in the dark a bit. In fact it can be very good for us. Somewhat cathartic yes, though I do think cathartic is over-used and oft misunderstood these days. I would prefer to say, restful. Staying up, excited, optimistic, enthusiastic, staying slim and fit, all these things take a lot of energy to maintain and it is very healing and comforting to just let it go sometimes. Just not for too long. Habits get formed in 6 weeks and we don’t want to carve a new and bad habit into the face of our lives.
Indulge yourself in a few weeks of eating avocados and almonds and maybe a bag of chips or two, snuggle with your sweaters and your favourite books, video games or do a tv show binge….THEN…get back into life!
Don’t start with a four hour marathon through the snow though. Start with a good winter cleaning. I prefer to get my house and life organized in Winter. Go through your clothes, your books, your old broken cell phones, all the clutter that is dragging you down. Now you are ready for some fresh new clothes to kick-start the fresh new you who is on the way!
Work on the kitchen. Get rid of the bad for you, indulgent foods and focus on your energy foods. Light leafy greens, nutrient dense root veggies, hearty grains and some sweet fresh fruits are all great for boosting your energy and mood. Clean that fridge and put in a fresh box of baking soda.
Get your bills and finances in order. Make a budget and make plans to pay off your debt in a reasonable amount of time without stressing yourself.
I’m a big believer in the mind body connection and seeing things fresh and clean and organized around you affects how you feel about yourself.
Work on a light and fun exercise regime. Join a class, yoga, play volleyball or join a gym but make (and keep!) small commitments to yourself. If you go 2-3 times a week for a cardio workout then stick with it you will be doing great!
Make a resolution-buddy to help you stick with your small, easily attainable resolutions. This is where QuestChat can be really fun and helpful too. Finding a friend or maybe even potential lover to share your struggles and successes with can bring you even closer than if you met when you were at your peak!
Good luck with your love, life and resolutions and remember Valentines Day is coming soon and you want to be ready for your much-deserved day of love!




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